A mother has a special bond with their children right from the beginning. They share a single body, a human starts living inside, makes a home in her heart, sees the world from her eyes, feels all her feelings, walks with her, and continues life until the day when the baby finally steps into the real world.
Living in the real world is different from what a baby lives in a womb. But the kicks the hat mother felt after doing something, the restlessness, made her understand that the baby is feeling something. That something is now the reason when a baby smiles or cries. But she knew it from the start. And that’s the bond mother and a child share.
Many children are troubled and being diagnosed and medicated earlier with ADHD, early aggression, and other behavioral and social disorders. These disorders can be children’s response to stress in the environment and an inability to regulate the emotional response to the same. So the question arises, why does this happen?
As mentioned earlier, environmental changes after the birth a baby experiences are more. It needs time and someone who makes the newborn adjust to the world. The disorder arises when the child’s mother is not around, and many women feel guilty about the same. But, it’s not a bad thing to feel guilty; rather it can lead in a positive direction as women start reflecting on their decisions.
A mother serves two important biological functions in their child’s life, especially in the initial three years. They can soothe a child’s distress within a second and also help regulate a child’s emotions, by not allowing them to go too high or too low. This lays down a strong foundation for controlling stress in future life.
When a mother feeds her child, she consumes all strong emotions and experiences for their child and helps them to learn how to begin to cope up, by making them calm and understanding, such that their emotions do not go too high or too low.
In absence of a mother, or when enough time is not given to kids, they experience higher levels of stress. Studies show that, when a mother and her child are separated, they secret cortisol hormone, viz. a stress hormone.
This uncontrolled formation of cortisol hormone in a child may cause a child to become anxious and fearful, even when there is no reason to be afraid. ADHD symptoms are the responses to stressful environments, similar to aggressive behavior response to fear.
Thus, proper parenting of a toddler is important, as it builds up a personality who has survived in their life further. The more a mother can be present emotionally for a child in the initial three years, the better the chance that the child will be emotionally and mentally stable.
But questions arise,
Why are the first three years so important?
By the age of three, a child’s right brain is developed by almost 85%. That means, it learns and processes almost everything around them. It is the age when mothers lay a foundation of a child’s resilience to face adversity throughout life and being able to control emotions as going forward in adulthood.
Both mother and father have a critical role in shaping a child’s personality, but from a biological view, they are not interchangeable. In the initial 3 years, the child’s brain develops and needs more sensitive nurturing.
As a mother is more emotionally invested in her child and is committed to more safety and survival, they have instincts, such that they help their child overcome difficulties.
What does being present mean to a new mother?
Bringing a present means being emotionally and physically present. Being physically present and not mentally, means that the mother is absent fully. Being present means being interested in a child, being in the moment and nowhere else, without diverting your mind or doing some other activity.
This also means getting rid of all the distractions like technology, work, and interacting completely with your child. Always remember connection is kept to the present and that requires mothers to be self-aware, empathetic towards the child, and sensitive to their child’s emotions. This leads to slowing down the pace of life.
Being present emotionally and physically in the first 3 years has the better chance that their child will be emotionally secure and healthy in later life. Besides this, healthy separation is of equal importance as it gives the value of healthy attachment. This will give the child both feelings of being loved, and feeling that I want to be loved; and will also allow children to get both secure attachment and a bit of space from the beginning.
There are also many setbacks in the journey of growing up your toddler, but it’s good. A mother gets a chance to come out differently and make a difference in their lives. From feeding them to making them a strong personality in the future, is what a mother does in the early three years of a person.
If that foundation is unstable, the person comes out to be aggressive and unstable. Thus, investing some years in your blood may further lead to the most beautiful and joyful outcome in life.
As early three years are important to build a foundation for a newborn, we at DoyaCare help you at every step in this stage. We work with experts to see what the needs are for both, Mother and her Child, helping them become mentally and emotionally stable.
A Mother goes through various changes in this stage, as she has to adapt herself in a new form with a new bond and relation – The feel of being a mother. A way of guidance becomes necessary when it comes to bringing up a child in a gentle way. DoyaCare has a proper plan for the same.
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